Wednesday, March 21, 2012

It's Not Easy Being Queasy.


Ever feel like you too often take a ‘pass’ when invited into circumstances that are unfamiliar and out of your normal scope? I sometimes do.

Sure, I’ll talk to most any stranger on an elevator. Trying a new restaurant is three shades of heaven in my book. And brainstorming gets me high.

But if you ask me, spur-of-the-moment style, to do something really unfamiliar – especially something I think I might not be good at – I'm prone to over-thinking the opportunity. Missing the boat and regretting it. Sigh. Gross.

In the last year, I've made it a goal to take on new experiences with a more open heart, and worry less about the 'grade' I might receive.

I've hosted monthly brunches at my house. 
I've acquired an appreciation for very good whiskey. 
I've regularly attended concerts of bands that don’t yet have Greatest Hits albums.

Basically, I'm becoming much more ok with the possibility of breaking a few things and/or making a fool of myself. I’m learning this approach is perhaps the soil of little miracles.

Which explains how I awoke this past Sunday morning with no idea of adventure on the brain, yet that afternoon found myself scrambling into a B-17 bomber for the ride of my life.

My brother, who had sometime ago planned a WWII retrospective flight adventure with friends, had something come up. 

He generously offered to allow me to take his spot on the plane.

My first reaction? “Um, nooo, but thank you so much.” I said it softly, wimp-o-matically.

Then he told me a bit about the plane's history, and, miraculously, “YES!” came out of my mouth. 

Sidebar: My paternal grandfather once told me that the most important word you’ll ever speak is “no.” He was a great man in many ways, but never would have understood Eat, Pray, Love, I am telling you now.

Our group approached the plane outside the Frontiers of Flight Museum a little after 5pm on Sunday afternoon. We clamored and (literally) climbed aboard - no jet way! no stairs! adventure! - found seats and strapped inThe seat belts were so cool - hook and latch, with wide cotton webbing soft from decades of wear.

The monstrous, rhythmic sounds of the B-17 are terrific. These bombers have near zero insulation, and metal walls. You feel and hear everything! Awesome.

During flight, I walked around and peered out the open windows, looking over the city. Sure, I honestly needed the breeze to help ensure that, as the only female on the flight, I didn't throw up due to intense turbulence. (I have my pride!) The moments of wind in my hair felt very 'industrial romantic,' and slightly Titanic, nonetheless. ; )

Panels of gauges and switches, labeled with terms like 'Master Armament' and 'Tank Bomb Bay,' surrounded me where I was seated, directly behind and below the pilots. Fascinating.

I dropped down from the main floor into the front belly of the plane, and then crawled along a polished wood plank to get to the huge, globe-shaped window at the nose. I ran my hand lightly along the back of the small, cotton-covered chair that once belonged to the gunner in that spot. The two enormous machine guns he manned were still loaded. G is for Goosebumps.

From lift off to touchdown, I was filled with epiphanies of gratefulness for the courage and stamina of soldiers I’ve never met.


My B-17 adventure reminded me to continue saying "yes" to unexpected, spur-of-the-moment opportunities. And to not become overwhelmed with any 'motion sickness' (fear? self-doubt?) that might occur in the process. Keep your eyes open, keep appreciating, walk around, take deep breaths. 


Life is short! Kiss it on the mouth!

Love,
-Melinda









Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Go With All Your Heart. And Take Your Head Along.




A good friend turned 30 last year, as I turned 40. She recently emailed me, asking for perspective on the decade I had just departed. Was there anything I would have done differently? Did I have any advice to share?



Following is my response. She thought it a good idea for me to share with the readers of Super Much Love. I hope you find it helpful or entertaining, whatever your age. I know it was cathartic for me to write – to get these thoughts down where I could look at them. 

And be more than a little grateful.

My humble advice would be:

Get still. 

Know that your gut never lies. To strengthen it, work it like a muscle - use and trust it. 

Plan for a Plan B, as not everything is within your control. Even if you never need it, you'll be glad for having done the thinking required, always. You are the only person charged with looking out for Grown-Up You.

Use moisturizer twice a day. 

Eye cream. Right now. 

Lots of fruit and veggies and travel. 

Build spiritual depth so you can handle loss and disappointment with grace.

When you shower, think only positive things. About your body, about your day. 

Let your little lines and wrinkles be from laughter and from tears - both coming from a good place. I have a couple of small lines near my left eye that were the result of crying for several months following my father's death. I see them as a sweet reminder that I'm capable of loving and that my father was a very fine man. 

Remember that you can change course, and that others may not understand, and that's ok. They'll catch up. They are busy with their own courses. 

Spend as much time as you can with family. Make it fun. That could mean cookies in the kitchen. It could mean a trip to somewhere you've all never been. 

Take a camera. 
Take your heart. 
Take it in. 

Your mind, your body, your spirit are your own. They are your First House. They belong only to you, and to God. Ask Him to show you what to do with them. Don't presume you know or will 'figure it out.' 

Spend time with older people so you can start getting an idea of what you'll need to lay in now to have what you want later. Emotionally, practically. 

Children are easier to have in your 30's than 40's, so if you want to have them, make time for dating great people that enhance your life. 

If you're not compatible with someone, if you're excited about “helping” them, exit now. They have the right to be who they are, and so do you. Don't spend time on fixer-uppers. That was for your 20's to resolve. No more Lowe's for Love. 

Time is your friend, not your enemy. But it's not playing around. Treat it like the wise friend that it is. 

Love,
-Melinda

Photo Credit: Sasha Bell/Flickr/Getty Images

Sunday, March 11, 2012

Happy News!


Dear Reader,

Super Much Love, if it had it’s every mwah-filled wish, would this morning make you a nice cup of hot cocoa, dole out a super little shoulder rub and tell you how seriously you rock as you head out the door and into your new day.

Because of your support and kindness – your reading and sharing Super Much Love with friends - the blog has grown to reach 50 countries. This completely blows my mind and sends me swimming in the biggest pool of gratefulness!

Today the blog is introducing its first real logo!

What you see is the work of the joyful, wildly talented designers at SWOON the Studio.

I am so blessed to work with these folks. SWOON does graphic design for Neiman-Marcus, the Dallas Cowboys and the Dallas Museum of Art, among other gold-standard groups. 

Fortunately, they think it’s also fun and worthwhile to work with fledgling brands like mine! This makes me do a happy little dance.

When you have a moment, please let me know what you think of SML’s new logo. Just comment below, or on the Super Much Love Facebook fan page.

Super Much Love’s new website should be ready for launch by the end of this month. All hands are on deck!

Your feedback and support mean so much to me – truly, thanks a million zillion!

Love,
- Melinda

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Book It, Love.



What to get someone who has everything - including your number?

Most folks like receiving something slightly personalized - but if you've already done monogrammed stationery, and embroidered pillowcases seem a bit too 'fluffy' for your honey...well then...

Tell them you want your days to start and end with them.
Tell them they wrote the book on amour. All of them.

Get your honey the coolest vintage bookends – customized with their initials!

Back story:
The books on my shelves had been falling over - occasionally knocking down picture frames, and generally running amuck.

So I hit Etsy.com a couple of weeks ago, hoping to find something different and handmade to reel in the madness and add some industrial chic.

I lucked upon Etsy's Orange Door Cottage, where I scooped up these nostalgic, customized bookends (my set is pictured above). 

Elisa Peterson, the online proprietor of Orange Door Cottage (and sister store, Orange Door Vintage), stocks a perfect assortment of crazy-cool, Anthropologie-would-love-to-have-this-stuff items. And at prices that won’t leave you shelved on a Saturday night! ; )

Idea that just hit me: Maybe ask Elisa if she’ll pretty please place your initial(s) on one bookend, and your sweetie’s on the other. Voila - you are the perfect pair!

Love,

- Melinda

P.S.
Following are a few other items I just had to show you from Orange Door...I cannot curb my enthusiasm when it comes to great goods... ; )








The vintage 'Pop' mug - perfect for a father or grandfather you adore. Amazing for a new dad, too! $18.








Greatest Place EVER to leave a love note or to-do list...for yourself or someone else! : )
The vintage memo holder, just $20. Amour!










The 'Don't Stop 'Til You Get Enough' framed letter press print, featuring surfer...11" x 13" and just $28. T'would be a fantastic gift to encourage someone who's pursuing a new dream or adventure!

Saturday, March 3, 2012

Dreamiest Office Ever

The great folks at Apartment Therapy truly cull some of the most inspiring (and do-able) interior design projects.

When I spied today's story on a 97 square foot modern, backyard office, I just had to share with you!

It's wonderful - a private oasis that is GREAT looking - actually enhances the aesthetics of your lot, rather than taking away, as so many 'spare structures' can.

As a former real estate agent, I can tell you that a well-designed, landscaped structure like this in your backyard truly adds to your home's value and desirability.

A haven for whatever you want to accomplish - Work? Music? Reading? Hobbies? Yoga? That novel you've had it in your mind for years to pen?

The Austin dweller featured in the story uses his space as a home office and spot in which to enjoy a fine cigar. ; ) Lovely!

Hope you find the article a perfectly relaxing read for your Saturday, and maybe a fabulous project to begin planning this spring.

Sure makes this high-rise dweller want a yard again in a big way! : )

Happy weekend!

Love,
-Melinda

Photo Credit: Apartment Therapy, 'Joey's Small and Spacious Modern Abode'